How To Love Like Him

I did it all wrong for years. And I was miserable! I'm talking about my attitude and my stinkin' thinkin' that was focused on the thought "What about me?!" And it came out in my behavior: If I didn't get my way all the time, I tried to control other people through my temper.

I honestly didn't know what my problem was until God spoke to my heart one day and said, "You're selfish. You've studied My Word about spiritual warfare, prosperity, healing, having power and authority as a believer in Christ…but how much time have you studied about My love?"

That was the beginning of discovering that I would never be happy and have peace until I learned to love like Jesus loves. When we know and experience God's love, we can share it with others. Imagine what the world would be like if everyone who calls themselves a Christian would really love each other with His love. Think about it. There would be no gossip, no judgment or criticism, no exclusive attitudes that make others feel rejected, and people's needs would be met much more than they are. 

Thankfully, Jesus gave us very real, practical examples of how we can love the way God loves us. Love is not just a feeling or a theory; it's a decision we make and an action we take. It's so important for us to study what the Bible teaches about God's love so we can learn to love like Jesus. And we have to pray for God to help us learn how to walk in love

I've learned that what I do in front of people publicly won't really mean anything if I'm not living a life that pleases God at home, too. I thought I would die of frustration before I finally got this, so I know it's not easy. We have to realize we're naturally selfish, and we must make a conscious decision to think of others on purpose or we'll miss many opportunities to serve them. 

By Joyce Meyer via christianpost.com

So blessed with this article 

oXXo,
Tessa

Moving on

Read this! (found it from instagram @thinkgrowprosper)

"Invest in getting better. Be so busy becoming the best version of yourself that you don't have the time and energy to involve yourself in things that drain you. Be defined by what you do, not by what someone has done to you. Don't give people that kind of power over you."
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🔸Shift happens: 

Yes, I know! Things happen. We lose relationships, friendships, and certain people as we are transforming to be the best that we can be.
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Life will put you in tough situations that mold you, challenge you, and prepare you for something better. If you decide to hold on to the old as you are transforming, you will have a harder time moving on.

🔸Games:

When you don't know yourself, you can fall into the traps and games people play. This is where our value and worth comes into play. You need to learn to elevate yourself. Don't lower your vibration to play along.
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Know what you deserve, not just in thought alone but in action too. When you set the bar for how you want to be treated, people will follow.

 
🔸Letting go:

Never identify yourself by something that has happened in the past. If you're a conscious creator of your life, you know that each moment is up to how you view yourself.
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Instead of linking your potential to the past, how about you letting go of it and live how you want to today. Don't give people from your past power over who you can be today.

 
🔸You're here to fully live:

You're a spirit having a human experience. Really take that in. Nothing can limit you except what you allow. This is why it's important to never allow anybody or anything to make you suffer.

 
Decide to be happy. Decide to get better. Decide to mature and gain wisdom. There's nothing more powerful and beautiful than self-awareness.

Green Smoothies

Belakangan ini aku lagi mencoba untuk sarapan dengan green smoothie, campuran sayur & buah2an. Biasanya setiap pagi aku membiasakan diri minum perasan setengah dari buah lemon yang di campur ke air hangat (kira2 baru 2 minggu ini sih hehe).. tapi sekarang lagi pengen rajin untuk buat green smoothies. Smoothies yang sering aku buat yaitu campuran dari pakcoy, pisang ambon & juice lemon atau nanas. Tanpa tambahan gula atau susu. Cukup tambahkan air dan es batu. Rasanya enak dan yang pasti sehat karena ini raw food alias mentah. Dan yang pasti setelah minum green smoothie ini BAB lancar :DDD. Resep2 untuk bikin green smoothies ini sudah banyak di mana2, tinggal google or coba search pakai #indonesiamakansayur or #greensmoothies di instagram. Sayur2nya bisa di ganti2 sesuai selera, bisa pakai kale, lettuce, spinach, caisim dsb. Begitu juga dengan buah2annya. Bisa pakai apel, buah naga, strawberry, blueberry, dsb. Optional tambahan seperti flax seed, chia seed, cinnamon, jahe, dll. Dijamin green smoothies kamu lebih enak & kaya akan vitamin & serat. Ayo pelan2 mulai ganti gaya hidupmu dengan yang lebih sehat!

Much love,
Tessa

Be brave. Be confident!

Life is about taking changes. Be confident about your self. Jangan pernah berhenti mencoba, jangan takut gagal. Trauma hanya penghalang dirimu untuk maju. Ingat bahwa pengalaman adalah guru terbaik. So, jangan pernah ragu untuk maju. You can do it! Be brave, be confident

oXXo,
Tessa

In & Out. Ladiesss, please watch this video!

Sweet Ideas

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Move by Rick Mereki

5 Timeless Secrets to a Perfect Life

There are many elements to a beautiful life. Work that you love, travel that inspires you, hobbies that make you laugh, and even adventure that pushes you to the edge. But at the end of the day, what really matters? What are the few items engraved in our DNA as human beings, that encompass everything?

In my experience, we want to make life so complicated. We want wealth, passion, purpose, health, and joy. But we’re idiots. We want the things that truly matter, yet we chase everything that doesn’t.

I have a wise mentor who taught me that immaturity often demands perspective. We need to look at life differently. It leads me to one of my favorite positive quotes.

“I still find each day too short for all the thoughts I want to think, all the walks I want to take, all the food I want to eat, all the books I want to read, and all the friends I want to see.”

So here they are, the unmistakable, unchangeable, secrets that truly create a perfect life:

1. Family – We can’t escape it. For some it causes joy, for others pain. But family is more than blood. It’s those who are greater than friends. Those who have remained with us for years, even decades. They have chosen to do life by our side. These people are the ones who truly bring us joy. Let’s not forget that. Instead of investing in a hobby, in a project, or in a job. Let’s invest here.
2. Friends – I follow a few neurological blogs (I know… how boring), a scientist from Yale University confirmed our minds are unmistakably designed for community and love. Friends offer both. Think about the happiest moments of your life, who was there? We spend so much time searching for happiness when it can likely be had in a simple conversation with good friend. Call them, today.
3. Fitness – Without our health, not much else matters. About 6 years ago I got very ill. I was diagnosed with an inner ear disorder which caused extreme dizziness for months a time. It was horrible. I became depressed, anxious, and border-line suicidal. It made one thing very clear. Without our health, life is short, depressing and hard to enjoy. But this is an area where many of us dig our own graves. We eat poorly, we don’t exercise, we take prescription medicines that treat symptoms rather than heal the problem. Let’s fight for our health. Go for a walk. Buy organic food. Go vegan for 90 days. Whatever it takes to protect this precious element of your life.
4. Food (and drink) – We can’t live without it. We were clearly made for it. It’s a source of joy and community for the human soul. Like anything, it can be abused. But let’s talk about a healthy value of loving food. I think there is a reason Jesus chose communion (which means community with food) as his way to be remembered. We have been created with an amazing ability to taste and to even feel different ingredients. Food is what brings us together, it heals us, and it provides a way for us to survive. Never feel bad about investing into quality food with great people. It’s these moments that make up the best times of our lives.
5. Faith – Now I know all of you might not agree on this one, but that’s okay :) – For many of us, faith in a Creator, does not make us weak, it offers us connection, community, joy, safety and most of all, purpose. For me personally, my faith has offered me incredible transformation and consistency. By knowing what I believe it allows me to create a life that aligns. It helps me through the toughest times and provides me a super natural ability to love people. If this is something you desire, reach out to God. Get to know him. I believe it is wiser to live as if there were a God and find out there wasn’t, than to live as if there is no God, and find out there was.

What items have pulled you away from what really matters? Tell me in the comments below.

Source from The Daily Positive

Happy New Year 2014

Happy New Year Guys!!! Just back to my computer after a quite long holiday since christmas :DDD I'm wishing you a very blessed & prosperous year ahead. Dream BIG. This will be a great year. Hmm one more, So excited about world cup this year. Yay.. Love you all!

oXXo,
Tessa

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Simple & Nice Makeup Tutorial by Tanya Burr

Love and Marriage isn’t for you, but..

This is Seth Adam Smith and his wife, Kim. They’ve been married a year and a half, and Seth just realized: marriage is not for him.

He realized it’s MUCH more than that. This is a recent entry from his blog. It’s well worth reading.

Marriage Isn’t For You

Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.

Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.

I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.

Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?

Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.

Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget.

My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”

It was in that very moment that I knew that Kim was the right person person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours. And thinking back on all the times I had seen her play with my nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to build our own family.

My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one.

No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”

Some time ago, my wife showed me what it means to love selflessly. For many months, my heart had been hardening with a mixture of fear and resentment. Then, after the pressure had built up to where neither of us could stand it, emotions erupted. I was callous. I was selfish.

But instead of matching my selfishness, Kim did something beyond wonderful—she showed an outpouring of love. Laying aside all of the pain and aguish I had caused her, she lovingly took me in her arms and soothed my soul.

I realized that I had forgotten my dad’s advice. While Kim’s side of the marriage had been to love me, my side of the marriage had become all about me. This awful realization brought me to tears, and I promised my wife that I would try to be better.

To all who are reading this article—married, almost married, single, or even the sworn bachelor or bachelorette—I want you to know that marriage isn’t for you. No true relationship of love is for you. Love is about the person you love.

And, paradoxically, the more you truly love that person, the more love you receive. And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.

Truly, love and marriage isn’t for you. It’s for others.

source Seth Adam Smith via Viral Nova

When you feel bored

If you are a freelancer who works at home like me, we can feel bored in working sometimes. If you've started to feel it, here's some tips that you should immediately do :)

1. Change your desktop wallpaper. It's works! Trust me. Klik here if you need some nice wallpaper from Design Love Fest

2. Clean your desk. Dispose of stuff that has been unused to the trash. Rearrange your work space. Put some inspirational stuff, books, magazine, pictures etc on your desk. Make sure your desk is clean

3. Clean your room. Change the color theme of your room if necessary. Make sure your room smells good and make you feel comfortable.

4. Download & play good music, that can boost your mood.

5. Make your favorite drinks. Warm coffee or tea would be nice.

6. Do your work and don't waste time

Xx

Happy Halloween!

I never been to a halloween party before.. (yeaa, poor me, i know) But i love the decoration ideas, cakes, cookies and everything Oh well :DDD

All images from pinterest. Thank you so much i'm so sorry i forgotten where i found these pics :(

A Very Nice Wedding Video

Open Your Eyes

Hello October. Have a great month ahead lovelies. Happy weekend!

image from Jet Black Soul via Oh Hello Friend

Nice Illustrations

 

 

 

 

I love all this stuff from Artsy Modern, very nice illustration & artwork. Check out their pinterest here

All by Artsy Modern

Beyond words

I stumbled upon this instagram dude, an indonesian artist (proudly said) Andeanarendra. Awesome artwork! Check this out

Girl's Guide to Starting Over // Michelle Phan

Hi i'm back blogging again. This week have been a bit heavy for me :( But i remember i ever saw Michelle's video about how to moving on. And I loved it. So i rewatched this video and decided to shared it with all of you. Keep calm and be gorgeous! oXXo

Be Amazing Today!

The embarrassing thing is, I forgot where i got this inspirational pic :( I'm so sorry

Salvation Mountain

Leonard Knights (81 years old) is the creator of Salvation Mountain, a 40-foot-tall riotously colorful abode and straw tribute to God's love built againts a barren hillside near the tiny town of Niland, just east of the Salton Sea. (is about an hour from palm springs in the middle of the desert). Leonard began buiding Salvation Mountain more than 20 years ago. Leonard didn't create Salvation Mountain for him self. He created it to send the simple message of "God is Love" to as many people as possible. Source The Press Enterprise 

Very inspiring right? If one day I meet this guy i will give him a big hug. I wanna do a great thing for God too. God bless y'all

Photo credits: Fine Art America , Vaylia Photography , Zuzutop , Ashcroft54 , Disinvestment blog & Regenerator Mag